And what do you think? - dialogue support and vaccination against categorization
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on the partner and just immediately talk about a lot,…

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About Love ... and the difficult rules of its preservation
Short report of one consultation. Request: “We have been dating for 2 years, we still can’t live together. Are planning. He says that he loves me very much. And not…

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Men and women: why inequality?
Over and over in the comments and letters, women write indignant messages to the editorial board of the Psychologist. Hello. Please tell me, are men some experts? Are they at…

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Loves a woman, loves a child

“Loves a woman, loves a child.” I very often hear this saying when it comes to talking about the children that a man receives with his beloved woman.

Does a man give love to a woman an automatic opportunity to become sympathetic to her child?

As I have to observe, it does not. Too many men do not at all experience enthusiastic feelings towards their woman’s children from previous relationships.

And is it the only “fault” here of this particular man?

As life shows, men even love their own children not so much for the call of blood, but for specific Continue reading

How much to meet before the wedding?

Consulting people for more than a year, I periodically come across this question: “How much do you need to meet before the wedding?” I have heard hundreds of stories that allowed me to form my opinion on this matter. This will not be a recipe for family happiness, but it may save you from some illusions.

When a client or client comes to me and starts talking about their relationship, the first thing I’m interested in is the history of their relationship, as well as the term. And you know

when I hear that the relationship is 4-5-7 years old and the couple are not yet married, I consider this an Continue reading

About Love … and the difficult rules of its preservation

Short report of one consultation.

Request: “We have been dating for 2 years, we still can’t live together. Are planning. He says that he loves me very much. And not only says, instantly responds to all my requests. So do I. We have very kind and, it seemed to me, sincere close relations. Now I found out that he has a relationship with another girl. He went on a business trip, and I found out that she went there to him. I was in shock. Why? After all, everything is fine with us. He always shows that he is well with me. And I love him very much, there is always a lot of tenderness between us. Like doves … And suddenly this …
I am very, very bad. I do not know what to do. I could hardly resist the sobbing calls or evil sms there to him. I could hardly resist an even more stupid desire to call or write to that girl (I have her phone Continue reading

How much to meet before the wedding?
Consulting people for more than a year, I periodically come across this question: “How much do you need to meet before the wedding?” I have heard hundreds of stories that…

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Family is a common goal
You have met or heard such stories. Imagine a line near the office of an official. About 20 people are sitting and everyone needs the only help. And then the…

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I love you
I am convinced that you need to start loving a loved one ten years before meeting him (with her). Why? Because you need to make yourself a wonderful person, and…

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How can I make your day better?
My name is Richard Evans, I am a writer, but I want to talk about what was in our family, without thought. And Carrie and I were all bad, very…

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