About Love ... and the difficult rules of its preservation
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I love you

I am convinced that you need to start loving a loved one ten years before meeting him (with her). Why? Because you need to make yourself a wonderful person, and love to learn: learn to love so that you do it efficiently and easily. Just as you can breathe.

They learn this at the Distance as part of the exercise “I love you”, here I will describe its contents and, in essence, I propose to jointly make a checklist according to which everyone who is interested in bearing the title of Loving could check themselves: today I loved properly? Not hackneyed, not distracted?
If you are interested in this task, I suggest starting with a poem by Arseny Tarkovsky:
Our dates every moment
We celebrated like an epiphany
Alone in the whole world. You were
Faster and lighter than the bird’s wing,
Up the stairs like dizziness
I ran and led through the step
Through the wet lilacs to their possessions
On the other side of the mirror glass … (read more)

Let’s go through these lines, find tips to help remember what it is: life in love.
If I love, I live in joy, and in joy I always have a light walk. “You were faster and lighter than the bird’s wing. I ran down the stairs like a dizziness through a step …” Here is the first requirement – accustom yourself to walk lightly. A gait walks bored and dreary. Lovers are happy! So your gait should radiate happiness. Your walk is easy!
There is!
The second – in joy we always have a lively face. This is requirement number two – if I love, I always live with a lively face. Not with a boring face, not with a dreary, not with a motionless – but with a lively, open, joyful face! While I love – always with such a face!
We looked in the mirror, checked – it was!

“We have celebrated our meetings every moment, like an epiphany …” Yes, the appearance of a loved one (beloved) nearby is not just an appearance, it is a phenomenon. This is the joy from which the soul flashes. Specifically, accustom yourself with each appearance of a loved one to flash his face, eyes, strengthen his sun! In the checklist, write: “Flash of the Sun.” You, a lover, have a living face – yes, but the appearance of a loved one should EVERY TIME at least for a moment add to you liveliness and joy. Cope, accustom yourself to this?

“Alone in the whole world” is about your focus and selectivity of attention, about selectivity of attention and about priorities. So answer the questions: what about your priorities? You play on the computer, your favorite came up – immediately turned off the game? You are cooking dinner in the kitchen, your husband approached – do you have a look at the pan where you turn the patties, or at your husband? When both of you are at home and each goes about his own business, how many times a day do you remember each other? (And what was the number when you were in love with each other?) Do you approach each other just like that, just because you wanted to kiss? How many times a day? And if you loved each other? In total, two questions immediately follow from this.
The first is the speed of response to the treatment of a loved one. At what speed do we get out of business to pay attention to our beloved / beloved? Right away? Or somehow later, because a loved one is not the most important thing? But the real priorities are not only the speed of turning the head when a loved one calls you, it is more. This is a question, dear wives of the Decembrists, about your readiness to change your life, if necessary for a loved one. It is a question of where the beloved is located and his affairs on the scale of your priorities. How high Dear men, answer for yourself what is more important for you – your favorite or favorite work? If work, maybe this is normal – not all men have love in the first place, and that’s why they don’t stop being loving. But if you have a favorite after beer – is it normal by priority?

If your loved one is in high priority for you, if he is on a pedestal for you, then you want to participate in his life, make his every hour and day brighter and happier, so the natural question for you is: How can I help you? How to please you? This question can be both external (really, why not ask?), And internal, sounding only in your soul – the main thing is that this question be ongoing, constant. He looked – and admiration. He looked – and the question: “How can I help you? How can I take care of you? How can I please you?”

Internal task “How can I help you?” complement with Second Hands. You are the “second hands” of your beloved when, as his second hands, you do what he needs, help in his affairs, think ahead of schedule, predict the help he needs. The difference with the task “How can I help you” is that there we can decide for ourselves what our beloved needs, and here we do what he really wants from us. There we take care of the beloved at our discretion, and here – we realize his will. Take an interest – usually the beloved likes it much more!
Here, to joyful care, you have a beautiful task: invent and implement 10 pictures of love – pictures where you are happy from the possibility of caring for your beloved /

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