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How to prepare the second half and parents to get to know each other

No one knows for sure when it comes – the right time to meet the second half with their parents. Someone does this long before the decision is made on the wedding, and someone only after this decision is made. In any case, the situation is stressful – both for the one whom they introduce, and for the one who introduces, and for the parents themselves. After all, it is not known in advance how the relations of all participants in the meeting will turn out. So that everything goes more or less smoothly, it is better to prepare for it in advance.

Photo by Anna Alekseenko (Tomsk).
First you need to decide exactly where your meeting will be held and in what format it will take place. This may be a traditional option – at home. In this case, you can sit together for a cup of tea or have a real dinner party. However, if you connect imagination, then other options will come to mind. For example, you can all go out together for a weekend. In the summer – arrange a picnic in nature, a trip to the park or summer cafe, in winter – joint skating or skiing. It is important that parents, your other half, and you love the chosen entertainment.

Tips for a Girl
Situation: you introduce your beloved to your parents.

Tell him what flowers or sweets your mom likes. At the first meeting with her, he must give her a small, non-binding, but very pleasant gift. If he comes to ask your parents for your hand, and not just get to know them, then the bouquet should give you as well.
Advise your beloved what to wear when meeting with your parents and how to behave with them. Tell me what they love and what not. This should be done carefully so that your chosen one has a generally positive opinion about them.
Parents also need to be prepared for a meeting with your young man. Unobtrusively and casually tell them about a few interesting cases from your relationship, where he showed himself only from the best side. Briefly describe his family, let him know what he does, how he cares about you and his relatives. Your stories should not only present the chosen one from a favorable side, but also give parents themes and reasons to start a conversation with him.
At the meeting itself, your main task is to smooth out acute moments and awkward situations. If you feel that some kind of tension has arisen or everyone does not know what else to say, you need to intervene and somehow defuse the situation. After all, it is you who are currently the connecting link of the entire company, you know all its participants well, so it will be easiest for you to somehow combine them.
It is necessary to create a situation so that parents and your chosen one have something to do and what to discuss. If the meeting takes place at home, then pay more attention to the dishes that will be on the table. Their discussion and praise to the hostess will help defuse the situation.
Know that for the successful outcome of the event in this case, the greatest responsibility lies with you.
Situation: your beloved introduces you to his parents.

Find out in advance how his mother relates to various features of the appearance, clothes, makeup and behavior of girls. For the first meeting you need to choose an image that will not annoy the mother of the future husband.
Most likely, your beloved parents will be interested in whether you smoke, drink alcoholic beverages – in what quantities and for what reasons, as well as other moral aspects. Be prepared for questions and assessments, and again, it is better to know in advance what your parents think about these issues in order to prepare honest and correct answers. Even if your positions differ with your parents, lying is still not recommended, as the truth will sooner or later become known. And in this case, you ruin the relationship.
Tips for a young man
Situation: beloved introduces you to your parents.

Tune in to positive. Even if at heart you believe in all the jokes about the mother-in-law, forget about them that day. If you love your girlfriend, then you will surely like her mom too. And looking at her you can imagine what your chosen one will be in adulthood.
Remember that most of the mother-in-law at the meeting pay attention to the external side of the young man’s relationship with their daughter. You should be well-dressed, you should have clean shoes and whole socks. Remember how to use a knife and fork, as well as napkins at the table. Follow all the rules of etiquette and hygiene.
Find out in advance what you should wear, what flowers your mother-in-law loves, what political opinions the father-in-law adheres to and which sports team he is a fan of.
If you intend to ask for the hands of your girlfriend, prepare a speech in advance. It should not be too long and too pathos. Better say something restrained, masculine, so that it sounds honest.
Situation: you introduce your beloved to your family.

The most important thing you need to do is create in your mother’s head a positive image of your chosen one. Tell all the best about her – how beautiful she is, honest, caring, in love.

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