Flirt and coquetry
Flirting is a form of attracting attention with sexual overtones. Flirty – female flirting. Ever emphasizing her feminine virtues, sometimes hiding them and demonstrating her inaccessibility, a woman increases her sexual attractiveness for a man. Women love to flirt. They do this, not always realizing it and not realizing why they do it.
Attitude to flirt (pedagogy)
For boys: Good, of course. Interesting, nice. But this is actually just a game. And you need to be aware that this is nothing more than a game. Do not place too large bets on it. Be prepared for the fact that it will end in nothing. To be able to adequately lose, and even better not to perceive the end of flirting as a loss (played – and that’s enough). Do not be offended if someone throws you. As a rule, this is exactly what happens.
For a girl – a special setting. If you flirt with someone and flirt, or he gives you flowers … Kisses in the porch … Compresses are all sorts … This is all, of course, very cool (if you are most pleased). But remember that YOU ARE NOT OBLIGED TO ANYTHING. If you suddenly feel uncomfortable, or if he demands something more that you are not ready for … You have every right to stop this game and say “chicks”. And you don’t owe him anything. Neither to compensate for the invested forces and means, neither in money nor in kind … This is all – it is simply not comparable.
The first is appearance. Even a normal by nature, but groomed and dirty woman is unlikely to attract attention, even if she owns all the subsequent methods of flirting. The first step in flirting is the ability to show your body. To attract a man, modern girls do simple, but effective things: loose their hair, put on a tight top (emphasizes the chest) and a mini-skirt (attention is drawn to the legs). Legs, breasts and hair are female “weapons of mass destruction” prescribed for mandatory concealment in traditional societies.
In baroque France, courtesans (court girls) could not so clearly emphasize their femininity, since Christian morality was still too strong. Therefore, they walked in high heels, emphasized their waist with a corset, put on low-necked dresses, and emphasized makeup on eyes and lips. Gold jewelry (necklace, bracelet) was designed to draw attention to the exposed neck and wrists.
The second is eye-catching. Even a discharged, but cold or rude girl will remain a soulless doll. Therefore, in flirting the main thing is to show interest. Strengthen sex drive by flattery. A woman’s weapon is a look. Insolent glance confuses, lack of glance indicates coldness. Therefore, the classic of flirting is a furtive look, averting the gaze as soon as he has noticed the gaze. In royal France, a fan was used to attract the eye (any waving object catches the eye). Averting one’s eyes symbolizes modesty – a traditional female virtue. A smile and a nod reinforce the impression of the look. It is believed that a woman should not be acquainted first, but she must do everything possible to want to get acquainted only with her. The gaze is directed to the eyes, lips or chest of the gentleman.
A more effective means of seduction was undressing in the presence of a gentleman with reference to the heat, retrusse (the art of showing a foot under the pretext of pulling up a stocking), as well as receiving a guest in bed. Similar techniques were practiced exclusively in secluded places: boudoir, park, carriage.
The third is the ability to hold. How many fleeting acquaintances have no continuation. In a conversation, a woman should emphasize interest and respect for him, watch with admiration and agree with him. This is called a compliment. Here, the main ability to enter personal space, that is, to approach the distance of the subtle smell of perfume, to touch (accidentally brush off a speck of dust from a jacket). Nothing excites a man so much as a sense of significance. A cold and indifferent lady will not succeed. Lack of significance can turn a man into impotent. Vanity is a generic property of man. In royal France, courtesans attracted the attention of a gentleman with an accidentally open leg while swinging on a swing, the ability to emphasize the chest in a slope, and a light licking of the lips. Modern girls pull guys to the beach to emphasize the charms of their body. And if this is not possible, then just unbutton the buttons on the blouse (as if from the heat). The best way to flirt is to be alone, especially in a room with a bed. Modern girls sometimes use movies with intimate scenes to attract attention, during which they squeeze the gentleman’s hand. Sometimes a girl may ask you to choose underwear and, on occasion, demonstrate it.
Flirting – by definition, these are gifts that symbolize caring.