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The approach mechanism can be described through a metaphor of flowing water. Here comes a dense stream. He rests against an obstacle, stands in front of it for some time, accumulating strength, then breaks through the obstacle and rushes on with renewed energy. Until the next barrier.

So rapprochement. People, “striding” towards each other, stumble into obstacles (usually internal) and for some time crumple near them. True, unlike water, people can retreat, deciding that the barrier is too strong (read – not finding the courage to take another step forward).

But if people do not recede and – attention! – both step over the barrier, there is euphoria. Over time (a completely individual term), the euphoria passes. Or it doesn’t work – if people get together very quickly.

Actually, it is this euphoria that makes falling in love so attractive and attractive (or, if not only it, then certainly – the value of euphoria is VERY great). Loving in many respects is supported precisely due to rapprochement.

Stages of rapprochement of man and woman
Now about what stages can be distinguished in the rapprochement of man and woman (I write in the language of the result; and only large, noticeable moments – there are others that are part of the ones described below):

We are looking at each other.
We talk with each other (spend time together).
We touch each other, but not in an erotic sense
We touch each other in an erotic sense (we kiss).
We have sex.
We spend a lot of time together (several days continuously).
We live together.
Typically, the stages of rapprochement are ending. The last stage looks like this: we draw closer bodily. In other words, the man calmly refers to the fact that his woman, although a princess, is pooping not with butterflies.

It seems that it is precisely the cessation of rapprochement that kills falling in love. Moreover, it is equally killing both the refusal to get close (when people stop taking steps towards each other) and the complete passage of the “distance”. And this – I’m not afraid to say – is natural. It should be so.

Having ceased to get closer, people sometimes do not experience euphoria and diverge on this basis. Because without euphoria, relationships are much more difficult to build – work begins. Everyday work (though I’ve recently been sweetened by the word “creativity”).

And those who manage to survive the disappearance of euphoria and the emergence of the need for work, get a chance to live together happily ever after.

And you know what is the most amazing? It turns out that later you can also get closer. But already – in a different way.

Approach Methods
Bridging the gaps. Over time, if you do not make efforts, the proximity in the pair becomes less (unless, of course, you can say that). People begin to move away because – work, habit, problems, friction and so on. Accordingly, you need to make some effort to get closer again. In this case, it is highly likely to experience not strong, but nevertheless euphoria from rapprochement. Probably familiar – somehow quarreled, walked, sulked, thought, “But should I part?”, Then suddenly decided, went up, started talking … And such a relief, such a joy!

However, it is hardly worth quarreling specifically, then to overcome the wall of alienation. This again is some unhealthy behavior.

Conversations. You can also get closer in a simpler way – by talking. For example, in our family, about once a month, a long conversation stably occurs at night. And there are no special reasons. Just both want to talk – this, in fact, is the moment of rapprochement.

Therefore, dear male colleagues, we must make noise, they say, went to bed, and she is here with conversations. A woman, like the more sensitive half of your couple, feels that you are moving away and striving to approach. I believe that she can only be supported and thanked in such a desire.

Clarification of painful moments. You can also get closer through clarifying painful moments. Let’s say something is annoying. You can sit down and say it. Not for the charges, of course, but in order to clarify, solve and eliminate everything. Again, the output will be a very pleasant feeling. And if you still hug, it’s really cool.

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