Our family is our world and our small state. Our Constitution is the main rule of our state. Our rules are not directed against anyone, but in the name of protecting the interests of each family member. They protect everyone and benefit everyone.
Family is work. And since this is our favorite work, we treat it with soul, joy and responsibility. If we are fully adequate at work, we can be the same in the family. When we need to remind this, we say: “Work format!”, After which we look after ourselves as if at work. If we do not understand how to solve a difficult issue, we recall how such issues are resolved in the treasury of common sense – in a reasonable business.
Everything that happens in the family is divided into three territories: my personal territory, your personal territory and our common territory. With a natural consequence: on my territory I am the master, on yours you, on the common Continue reading
You have met or heard such stories. Imagine a line near the office of an official. About 20 people are sitting and everyone needs the only help. And then the secretary comes out and reports that the official is no longer accepting today, and has just left. What you will see the unity of angry citizens, who before this did not even care about each other!
Also in the family. Imagine: a couple, not the first year together, tired of family life. They tolerate each other, but on the whole they have not experienced much pleasure from communicating with each other for a long time – a lot of discontent, disagreement, resentment has accumulated. But suddenly something happened. For example, a child fell ill, and not just with a runny nose, but with something requiring a long and difficult treatment. And parents unite in front of a common task – the child must be cured at all Continue reading
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on the partner and just immediately talk about a lot, raising several topics at once. How to discuss this? Only if you answer the same.
“I get tired, but you don’t help me and behave as if all your whims should be fulfilled immediately!” – what to answer? Now listen to another conversation: “I’m tired and would like to discuss with you, can I count on your help?” – “Oh sure!”. If the conversation is built in the form of dialogue, it’s easier to negotiate. Continue reading