How is psychological attachment formed
Attachment is a connection that attracts and holds a person next to someone or something when neither a feeling of love, nor interest or benefit connects him with it. To…

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I love you
I am convinced that you need to start loving a loved one ten years before meeting him (with her). Why? Because you need to make yourself a wonderful person, and…

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Love and self-esteem. Idealization of a partner in premarital relations
Love is a conformal reaction to the norms and values ​​that prevail in society. And the norm in a modern developed society is, in particular, the idea that everyone at…

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Scripts in love

If a person loves, he cares about whom he loves, but caring for us by us is not always perceived by us with gratitude and enthusiasm. We have our own, albeit sometimes vague, ideas of what we need and how we need to be taken care of, and only if the lover acts according to a scenario that suits us, this concern will please us. Accordingly, one of the important competencies in love is the knowledge of what and how to make a loved one, so that he perceives it and appreciates it as love, knowledge of the necessary scenarios and the ability to reproduce them.
Pictures of love
We all love to dream of love and compose beautiful pictures of how loving people should live together. It seems to me that this is very important, and it is important to treat pictures of love not as empty dreams, but as specific instructions, as behavioral requirements: if in your picture you see that people who love each other behave just like that, that means and do it. Create pictures of happiness of love – and follow Continue reading

Flirt and coquetry

Flirting is a form of attracting attention with sexual overtones. Flirty – female flirting. Ever emphasizing her feminine virtues, sometimes hiding them and demonstrating her inaccessibility, a woman increases her sexual attractiveness for a man. Women love to flirt. They do this, not always realizing it and not realizing why they do it.
Attitude to flirt (pedagogy)
For boys: Good, of course. Interesting, nice. But this is actually just a game. And you need to be aware that this is nothing more than a game. Do not place too large bets on it. Be prepared for the fact that it will end in nothing. To be able to adequately lose, and even better not to perceive the end of flirting as a loss (played – and that’s enough). Do not be offended if someone throws you. As a rule, this is exactly what happens. Continue reading

Rapprochement

The approach mechanism can be described through a metaphor of flowing water. Here comes a dense stream. He rests against an obstacle, stands in front of it for some time, accumulating strength, then breaks through the obstacle and rushes on with renewed energy. Until the next barrier.

So rapprochement. People, “striding” towards each other, stumble into obstacles (usually internal) and for some time crumple near them. True, unlike water, people can retreat, deciding that the barrier is too strong (read – not finding the courage to take another step forward).

But if people do not recede and – attention! – both step over the barrier, there is euphoria. Over time (a completely individual term), the euphoria passes. Or it doesn’t work – if people get together very quickly.

Actually, it is this euphoria that makes falling in love so attractive and attractive (or, if not only it, then certainly – the value of euphoria is VERY great). Loving in many respects is supported precisely due to rapprochement.

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